My Personal Rules for Dealing with the Storm

18 Jul

For the past four months I have found it difficult to get back to my genealogy research.  I just was overwhelmed by moving and the pandemic and working from home and watching the craziness of the politicalizing health care and wearing masks. 

I touched a bit of my passion when I discovered my husband’s parent’s wedding album and was able to write about it and put a photo up for his family.  We were supposed to have a family reunion of all the first cousins in June, but that was called off due to the pandemic.  The blog about the wedding album was a way to remember.

But as for my research on my family, I hit a mental block.  I am beginning to think that the worldwide rise in antisemitism part of the problem.  When I research my family, I often end up back in concentration camps, ghettos, death and destruction due to the Shoah.

 I just cannot bear to deal with that now.  I see history repeating as horrible political cartoons and national figures make horrendous statements about Jewish people.   It disgusts me.  And even people who I consider friends, sometimes do not see the antisemitism in the comments or cartoons.  And that frightens and sickens me.

I have a high level of anxiety about baseless hatred.  The same hatred I see rising in the USA.  But not only the hatred, the use of the military to attack US citizens.  The use of unidentified soldiers in Portland illegally arresting people in a militia like the SS. It is against the law in the USA to arrest someone without identifying yourself and with no due cause.

The use of the military to attack peaceful protesters at a church so the administration could have a photo op.  The use of the military in non-identified uniforms at the Lincoln Memorial.


These soldiers and members of the military need to say a resounding NO!  They should not be brainless lambs like the Nazi/German soldiers whose response after the war was, “I just did what I was ordered to do.”

I am beginning to see some light.  The pentagon said No to the Confederate Flag.  The general who was at the church apologized for being at the church in uniform and giving what seemed to be military approval of this behavior.  The mayor of Portland saying get these federal agents out.

Sane people have to behave in a sane way.  Right now fear and lies are ruling our country. So my rules:

  1.  Do not be a lie spreader.  Please check your sources before you post anything.  Misinformation on either side increases the divisiveness. 
  2. Don’t stop talking to others who do not believe what you believe. If we stop talking to each other, we add to the polarization of this country.   We can agree to disagree, but we should not end conversation.
  3. Believe the science of disease.  Wearing a mask will not hurt you. You will not get sick from carbon dioxide. This is a cruel lie.  Wearing a mask does stop the spread of the disease. This is the truth.  And honestly, doctors and nurses have been wearing masks for a long time. And they are alive.  Except those who have recently died because of their constant exposure to the Covid virus.  Even masks and PPE cannot always save you from infection. But it does help.
  4. So wear a mask out of kindness for others.  Keep physical distance inside out of kindness to others.  This will eventually pass, but to save the most people as possible we need to be responsible.
  5. United we stand, divided we fall.  We are one country which includes people of all races, religions and creeds.  When one group is made the scapegoat or the outcast, we all suffer.  It is time for racism to stop.  It is time for anti-Semitism to stop.  It is time for rants against the other to just stop.  We have to learn to live together again.
  6. Finally, just be kind. The administration has taken kindness out of the vocabulary.  Follow the words that we are supposed to follow:  Isaiah 58:7  Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover him, and not to hide yourself from your own flesh? Ezekiel 18:7  Does not oppress anyone, but restores to the debtor his pledge, commits no robbery, gives his bread to the hungry and covers the naked with a garment, Matthew 25:34-46: Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? “Feed the hungry, visit the sick and set free the captives.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari, volume 7, Hadith 552) “(The righteous are those) who feed the poor, the orphan and the captive for the love of God, saying: ‘We feed you for the sake of God Alone; we seek from you neither reward nor thanks.” –  Quran, 76:8-9. “One should not behave towards other in a way that is disagreeable to oneself. This is the essence of morality. All other activities are due to selfish nature.” Mahabharata, Anusasana Parva 113.8. My religion is simple. My religion is kindness.” The Dalai Lama

Do NOT remain silent when you see evil taking place. The silent bystander, who does nothing, is just as bad as the ones who commit the evil. We have learned this from history. We all need to say a resounding NO to the cruelty that that is being spread.

9 Responses to “My Personal Rules for Dealing with the Storm”

  1. Sherry Rothberg July 18, 2020 at 1:02 pm #

    Coronavirus!! Masks!! Nursing Rehabilitation guidelines, CDC. Somers, N.Y. Negative–April, May, June, July. August 2020? September 2020? October 2020? Thanksgiving?? Chanukah? Closed!! Sued? Attorney? Doctors? Prayers!!!!

    • zicharon July 18, 2020 at 1:26 pm #

      I hope you stay safe!!

    • zicharon July 18, 2020 at 1:26 pm #

      So they test you every month? Can you see your daughter?

  2. Sharon July 18, 2020 at 1:07 pm #

    Beautifully said. I am feeling some of the very same things. I am especially concerned with friends who don’t see the antisemitism or make mindless comments bordering on it. I have begun to speak up. #6 was wonderful and if I may I might share this when needed 🙂 Hang in there 🙂

    • zicharon July 18, 2020 at 1:28 pm #

      Please share if you think it will help. I wanted people to see that many if not all faiths believe in kindness and helping others. Not the behavior we are seeing now.

  3. Amy July 18, 2020 at 3:26 pm #

    I love your rules, and I admit I am not very good at Number #2. I just cannot tolerate those who are bigoted or those who choose to be ignorant or those who dismiss science or put more value on money than public health. I cannot have a real civil conversation about important issues with anyone who supports Trump. I know this is wrong, but I see no way to have a real and civil conversation with people whose values are so diametrically opposed to mine. I can’t change the minds of those who are closed-minded.

    On the other hand, I will speak up against those who say racist things or anti-Semitic things. It’s not a dialogue though. It’s me speaking my mind to someone I can’t tolerate.

    • zicharon July 18, 2020 at 3:32 pm #

      There are some people that are difficult to speak to about politics. So I make that off limits and we talk about those things that unite us. I am nit turning a blind eye, I am focusing on the common ground. Sometimes it is difficult.

      • Amy July 18, 2020 at 3:34 pm #

        I do have some neighbors whose politics is not consistent with mine, and we avoid talking about politics. But they aren’t racists—at least not outwardly. It’s the real haters I can’t converse with—and at this point, anyone who votes for Trump is a racist is my view. I just find it too hard to be civil for more than a brief time with someone like that. My failing, but I’d rather walk away than have a nasty argument.

      • zicharon July 18, 2020 at 4:51 pm #

        I understand.

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