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A Visit To A Grave Provides Closure

10 Mar

Zissel’s Grave

Recently when visiting my daughter in Israel, we went to the cemetery in Holon to search for my grandfather’s cousin’s grave. I have written about (Lieb) Zissel Feuer many times.  Because, although I met him when I was 19, I really did not know his story. I saw his several times over a two-year period when I was in college. But it wasn’t until I really began researching my family that I found out exactly the role he played in both the family and for the Jewish survivors who had lived in Mielec. (You can read about him in some of my other blogs.)

For me, he was an elderly relative that my grandmother asked me to visit. (He was about the age I am now.)  I went to see him whenever I was in Tel Aviv. I always went to the bakery across from the Shuk HaCarmel, and he was always there when I went. He would walk me back to his apartment where we would visit for a bit. I took my parents to meet with him. And I brought my grandmother to see him as well. He was the connection to those who perished.

The last time I was in Israel then, I was 22. Keeping in touch with an older relative was not high on my list at time in my life. And, although I kept in touch with others.  Zissel, I did not. But I always remembered him. And I had stories about my visits with him.

I did not go back to Israel for 25 years. Raising a family, working, living my life. I did not have time for that.  But in 2005 I returned. And since then, I have been back multiple times to visit cousins and friends, and my daughter and her family. Because that trip to Israel in 2005 awakened a yearning for her to live in Israel.

Last year, I reconnected with other family members who live in Israel and were related to Zissel as well. They told me that although Zissel had no immediate family of his own, he was their family and he was always with them for the holidays.  That made me happy. I always wondered if he had a place to go. 

I felt like I needed to say goodbye to Zissel. And tell him how much I appreciated my times meeting with him and for what he had done for the survivors of the Jewish community of Mielec. So I asked my relatives where he was buried.

In February, my daughter and I went to see his grave. I was surprised to see that his name in Hebrew on the tombstone said Judah Lieb Zissel. While he was listed in the directory as Lieb Zissel.  I don’t know why.   I just wondered if it had to do with the Shoah. His grave says:

Here is a charitable man, a survivor of the Shoah. Who dedicated his life to good deeds and supported Torah institutions in the USA.  Lieb Zissel, the son of Matityahu HaCohen Feuer. He died on Shabbat, the 20th day of Adar.    

Only the holiest die on Shabbat. To Jewish people it is a sign of righteousness. Supposedly the souls go straight to their rest.

I left him a stone. Yes, I did put a heart on it. There were other stones there as well. I am glad I went. I felt like I was completing the circle, finishing something that needed to be done.  My daughter told me we could come to visit him whenever I came to visit her. I might do that.  Zissel was an important part of my history.

Today is his yahrzeit. I am writing it on the 29th anniversary of his death. May his name and memory always be a blessing.

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Iran (Persia) and Israel, Biblical Allies

27 Feb

In the story of the Megillah Esther, we learn how an evil Haman tried to murder the Jews out of his jealousy of Mordechai. We learn how Mordechai coached his relative Esther to keep her Jewish identity secret. Thus when she reveal her Jewish identity,  she is able to save the Jews of Persia from the rampage of hate and violence that Haman had planned.

In modern times we see the hatred of Haman revisited in the actions of Iran against the Jewish people. But the relationships between Iran and Israel are complicated and intertwined. Once close allies, they were divided when a radical regime took over.

When I first went to Israel in 1972, Israel and Iran were close allies.  One of my relatives, a veterinarian, was living in Tehran as he was teaching at the veterinary school. When the current radical Islamic regime took over, all the Israelis had to flee. We all know what happened to the Americans who did not escape in time. They were taken hostages. In fact, it was the American hostage crisis in Iran that is considered by many to be the reason President Carter did not get reelected. In the background, Carter administration arranged for the 52 hostages to be released before he left office. However, the hostages were not released by the Iranians until after President Reagan took office.  

Just have to say: Iran and hostages; Hamas and hostages. Citizens of the USA should have been more understanding about the Israeli hostages since we had lived through a similar horror. But then those who did the most protesting, the college students,  did not know about what happened between 1979- 1981. They were ignorant of the history.

The people of Iran have lived with this radical Islamic regime for almost 50 years. Throughout the time, besides the social issues facing the Iranian women, Iran has continued its crusade to destroy Israel and kill Jews throughout the world. This was done instead of building up the infrastructure of Iran. The regime has spent its money on weapons and supporting its agents of war, the terrorist groups Hamas, Hezbollah, and the Houthis. Iran now has limited water, Tehran has been close to running out of water for years, and a water system is not working and decaying. The economy is destroyed because of sanctions and so much money spent on violence and war, especially after the 12-day war with Israel, with Israel being victorious.

Now times are changing. The people of Iran are standing up and demanding regime change. There has been violence by the regime against its citizens. There are reports of ten of thousands being murder, even more injured and many of the protestors thrown into prison.  Those who support Hamas and terrorists are not speaking out against the horrors enacted by the Islamic regime. Instead, they continue to blame Israel. Why?  Perhaps because the people who they are supporting are Hamas and they are paid for my Iran.

When the CNN biased news reporter Christiane Amapour asked Reza Pahlavi about his visit and support of Israel in recent interview, his response supported Israel.

“There are only two nations on this planet that can claim a biblical relationship with one another: Israel and Iran,” he said. He then discussed Cyrus the Great, who helped in freeing the Jews from Babylon and rebuilding the Temple. He stated strongly that Israel and Iran can walk together to stablize the Middle East and build peace. Finally, that Iran needs water because water is life. And Israel is the country that can help Iran develop its water resources.

For those who do not know the history of Cyrus the Great, after he conquered Persia he ended the Babylonian Captivity of the Jewish people and allowed them to return to Israel to build the second Temple. In the Book of Isaiah, Cyrus the Great is called a messiah, an annointed one because of his deeds. He was revered by the Jewish people. In the book of Ezra he is quoted: “All the kingdoms of the earth hath the Lord, the God of heaven, given me; and He hath charged me to build Him a house in Jerusalem, which is in Judah.”

Which leads back to the retelling of what happened in Persia during the time of Purim. The king of Persia was Xerxes, the grandson of Cyrus the Great. And Xerxes is believed by many scholars to be King Ahasuerus..

As we read the Megillah Esther this year, let us think about what is happening in the Middle East.  Let us hope and pray that as Reza Pahlavi believes, Israel and Iran can soon work together in peace. And those whose intent is to harm Israel will be eliminated as was Haman and his family, but I hope also in a more peaceful manner.

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My Wishes for a New Year

31 Dec

May 2026 bring peace to the world.

May there be a change in our government that will help people with health care by extending the subsidies; end unnecessary tariffs that are hurting our farmers and causing food prices to rise dramatically; and have a Congress that once again works together for all the people of the United States, of all races, religions, creeds, genders, countries of origin, and social strata.

May America become a peaceful welcoming country once more.

May the great divide between political parties ease so that we work together for a common good once more. Where are the moderate compromisers who once lead the USA to success? May they return to serve our country.

May there be successful work to end gun violence. Schools should be safe and not the location of the mass murders that are raging against our country’s children.

May there be an end to Jew Hatred! May the world unite to stop violence against Jews and end the uprise in Anti-Semitism. Hating one group leads to more hate. It needs to end.

May the world unite to stop violence and wars in Ukraine, Sudan, Nigeria, Israel. May Russian finally end its attacks on Ukraine. May Islamic Jihadist stop killing Christians in Sudan and Nigeria. May the Druze and Christians in Syria be safe from violence. May Lebanon once again have a free and independent country free from Iran influenced Hezbollah.

May terrorism of all kinds be eradicated from the world allowing people to live their lives in peace and in joy with their neighbors.

May the terrorist rulers of Iran finally be overthrown allowing Iran to be restored to a country that lives in peace with the world, and does not financially support terrorist groups, but instead works for the benefit of its citizens.

I know that I am asking for much to happen in one year. But if I don’t ask and work toward it nothing will happen. So I pray that more people will work to be a light in the world to spread truth and work to end hatred.

Terror at Hanukkah 2025

19 Dec

Today is the funeral of Matilda, the 10-year-old girl murdered by terrorists in Hanukkah Massacre on Bondi Beach.  I cannot stop thinking about her.

I woke up Sunday morning knowing that evening would be the first night of Hanukkah.  I went to Facebook to post a happy photo of my dreidel collection, something I do every year.  But instead, I saw the horror that was Bondi Beach in Australia. I was in no mood to post a happy Hanukkah photo.

What really distresses me are those who shout, ‘Globalize the intifada” or “From the River to the Sea.”  Especially when it is a Jewish person who has turned away from supporting the survival of Israel and instead seems to be supporting Hamas.  I really cannot stand their actions anymore.

With a child and her family living in Israel, when I see those words I think, “So you want my family killed.”  “So you want all Jews to be killed.”  Do you realize when you say “Globalize the intifada” that includes you.  Jihadists do not care if you are a Hamas supporting Jew or not.  They will just kill you. 

When people hear that 1250 Israelis were killed on October 7, they assume that they were all Jews.  Not true.  Hamas did not care who they killed or who were the 250 hostages they took. Because they hate.  Among the dead and hostages were other Muslims, Christians, Buddhists, and Hindus.  But to the world it was Jews.  How ignorant.

When they say Israel was the occupier, they are deluded.  Israel withdrew all its people from Gaza in 2004.  It has stayed outside, just protecting its borders from the constant attacks from Gaza. The missiles and rockets came every year like clockwork on certain Israeli or Jewish holidays.  But the western media never reported on those attacks because Israel built thousands of bomb shelters to protect its people, so most attacks were futile.  The news only reports when people die. But that doesn’t mean the bombings didn’t happen.  The western media only reported when Israel fired back. And then it was Israel bombs Gaza, with no context.  To say the western media is anti-Israel and anti-Semitic is putting it mildly.

So now we have Jewish young adults who are so ignorant of Jewish and Israeli history they are siding with the terrorists.  I guess they think that makes them morally better because they stick up for the ‘underdog’. But honestly, since the global population of Muslims is 2 billion and the global population of Jews is less than 16 million, I think they have the underdog confused.  

Some also say, “I am not Anti-Semitic, I am anti-Zionist.” Is there a difference? NO! Every year we end the Passover seder with these words, “next year in Jerusalem.”  What do they think that means?  It is a prayer and wish for all Jews to return to Israel.  The return to Israel is what Zionism means, to return to the land of our ancestors.

Israel has fought for its survival.  Israel stands up to terror and hatred.  It is time that the world acknowledges the truth.  Hamas started the war; Hamas hid food from the people of Gaza, Hamas built tunnels to care for its terrorists and left the people of Gaza to suffer; Hamas murders innocent Gazans who disagree with their beliefs.  You are a fool if you believe the lies that the media repeats with information from Hamas.  Globalize the intifada means killing you as well.   Finally, some countries, like the United Kingdom are pushing back about this phrase and calling it what it is, a cry for violence.

Even Amnesty International with its pro-Hamas outlook finally had to release its report that acknowledges that what Hamas did was a war crime. They did not want to release it, because it shows their own moral crimes by not standing up for those murdered, raped and brutalized by Hamas on October 7 and after as hostages.  From their website: “Amnesty International research confirms that crimes committed by Hamas and other Palestinian armed groups during their attacks on October 7, 2023, and against those they seized and held hostage were part of a systematic and widespread assault against the civilian population and amount to crimes against humanity.“

Gaza could have been a Mediterranean Sea paradise.  Instead, Hamas used the money given to them for the people of Gaza to use for their own interests.  They built tunnels, they purchased rockets, missiles and rocket launchers. They purchased guns and weapons. They did nothing for the people of Gaza. 

Israel provided the people water and electricity.  Gazans went into Israel to work.  They went into Israel for medical care.  In return the schoolbooks in Gaza painted Israelis and Jews as the villains and taught children to be martyrs only by killing Jews.  

Hamas attacked Israel with the intent of killing and destroying as many people and places as possible. They wanted to create fear. They took hostages and brutalized them.  The videoed the horror that they inflected on the those they killed and brutalized. They posted these videos online. They live-streamed.  Then they denied they did what the vidoes showed..  They thought the world would stop the Israelis from fighting back.  For the first time that did not happen. 

I feel for the people of Gaza, the women and children who have been used by Hamas for terror.  I feel for them now with no homes as the rainy season is here. 

Do I think all Muslims are terrorists? Of course not.  We see that with the brave shopkeeper in Australia who risked his life in an effort to stop the gunman.  We see the truth by the many Israeli Muslims who stand up for Israel, their homeland.  We see the truth in the Imams who said the terror attacks are not the true way of Islam.

Do I like Netanyahu or Ben Gvir. NO. I think both are bad for Israel in the long run. Should there be an inquiry as to what happened on the lead up to October 7.  Absolutely.  But on the other hand, should they have sat back and let Hamas kill more Jews. Never. Never.

It is time for the Western media, politicians and all Jews to face the reality of extremist jihadists.  To look at what is happening in Sudan, Nigeria, and other areas of the world where Jihadists are killing people and realize that this horror could come to all countries.  

Those who continue to support the violence and hate of Hamas and chant Globalize the intifada, you are just as evil as the ones who kill, murder, rape, brutalize all in the name of a false view of religion.

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Bomb Shelters In Day Care Centers Is Not Normal.

16 Nov

“The day care has added a new bomb shelter inside the infant room,” my daughter told me as she was describing the day care center she is planning to use for our Israeli grandchild.  I gagged when she told me.  She had a giant smile on her face, impressed that an outside donor made the effort to keep the up to 17 infants in this center safe.  Before this specific bomb shelter was built, she informed me that the day care providers would have to run and grab all the babies and get them to the shelter that was in the area near the toddlers. Now it will be so much easier to get the babies to safety! UGH.

I guess it is a matter of prospective.  The idea of a bomb shelter in the infant room is great if you are constantly under bombardment.  Thus, I agree having this room right near the infants is wonderful.  My gag was in response that my grandchild has to be in a day care center with bomb shelters.

 In fact, my gag went father then that.  When we finished our call, I ate six Oreo peanut butter chocolate cookies.  I have not eaten six cookies at once in over a decade or more.  But today in an moment of anxiety, I snarfed them down, not even realizing I ate so many till I looked at the new box of cookies and realized how many were gone.  It will take me a week to work off these six cookies.  But then it will take me forever to come to terms with my grandchild in a day care that has two bomb shelters.

It was bad enough that my daughter gave birth while the Houthis launched a ballistic missile to Israel. We had to take cover in the mamad, while my daughter labored in a birthing room that was also a bomb shelter. (See blog below.) They were safe, we were safe, but it really it was indicative of the Israeli lifestyle.  Just keep living around the sirens.  But is it really ok?  NO, I don’t think so.

I am so frustrated with the constant denial of what the Israelis have endured for the almost 80 years of the country’s existence.  Constant wars, attacks, barrages both military and in media.  I feel like I am living in a split world where reality doesn’t quite reach into the world of Israel. 

But then do the Israelis realized how much they should be suffering with all these attacks? Who knows?Israel still ranks in the top ten of happiest nations in a global survey. This past March it scored as the eighth happiest nation. (As per the World Happiness Report, see link below.)  Israel was fifth last year.

Finland, Denmark, Iceland, Sweden, Netherlands, Costa Rica and Norway are the only countries that were happier.  And having been in Iceland, Denmark, Sweden, Finland and the Netherlands, I understand. When it is that cold, you just look at the world a different way.  As I learned in Denmark.  “There is not bad weather, there are only bad clothes.”

Perhaps in Israel it is “If you did not die, then it is okay!”   I am getting sick of living in the world expressed by comedian Alan King’s joke about Jewish holidays, “They tried to kill us. We won. Let’s Eat.”

I recently met with two Israeli women who are traveling in the US to raise funds for schools for Moslem and Jewish children.  We talked about the atmosphere in Israel.  I said I think everyone in Israel has PTSD.  The Moslem woman disagreed. She thinks everyone in Israel is still in the trauma stage. That they just are so used to being in this state that they don’t even realize it is not a normal way to live.

Israel has changed since October 7.  The atmosphere is better since the return of the last of the living hostages.  But the angst remains. How can it not.  So many young people have been murdered.  So many horrible stories of what happened. So many unable to bear the burden they have from surviving. Those that died by suicide are also victims of Hamas.

I was in Israel in November 2022. It was really a joyful place to be.  The horrors had not yet occurred. The economy was booming. Tourism, tech companies, industry, agriculture, construction, life was good.  I have been back twice this year. Tourism is down.  Agriculture and construction have fewer employees so buildings stand with quiet cranes and volunteers pick the crops.  But still there was always hope that the hostages would come home. 

I went in May just before the war with Iran.  I heard the bombers flying overhead.  I had four trips to the bomb shelter.

I went in July and August.  After the destruction of Hamas, Hezbollah and Iran’s missiles and drones.  I only had one trip to the bomb shelter.  Those Houthis!

Now that the hostages are home, I want it to end.  I do not want my infant grandchild to have to be protected by a bomb shelter at day care.  I do not want any child to have to grow up in a world where they do not realize that having a safe room in their home is normal. No child anywhere should live this way. It is not normal.

https://data.worldhappiness.report/table
Air Raid Sirens Are Not the Music to Labor Through!

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Air Raid Sirens Are Not the Music to Labor Through!

2 Aug

This week, I had an out of body experience.  My body was in Holon with my husband, as my daughter and son-in-law were at a hospital where my daughter was in active labor. But my heart was with them. We had been awaiting the arrival of our newest granddaughter with excited anticipation. 

As we waited for news, a different sound interrupted our reverie.  It was not the buzzing of a cell phone with information or pictures.  Instead, it was the sounds of sirens as the Houthis sent another ballistic missile towards Israel.

As we ran to the mamad, I panicked. I have lived through sirens in Israel before. But now my thoughts were on my daughter delivering a new life into the world.  Was the birthing room in a safe place? My son-in-law reassured me.  At the same time my cousins also starting texting to make sure we were okay.  They also let me know that the birthing rooms were safe from rockets.

My granddaughter was born later the night, in the early morning hours of the next day.

But her arrival being heralded by air raid sirens led my mind to wander.  What will it be like for her to grow up in a country where there are air raid sirens weekly?  Where you never know who will attack next. I honestly believe that all residents of Israel have a little PTSD.  And I m sad that my granddaughter will have to live with the sounds of sirens in her life.

But at the same time, I have to think pregnant mothers in other areas of the world that are not safe.  I cannot imagine how a pregnant mother feels who lives in Yemen, Gaza, Ukraine, Sudan, the Druze community of Syria, and Iran.

How do those women cope?

Here in Israel, there is the security that the sirens will alert us of a missile. That the mamad or bomb shelter will keep us safe. In these other places there are no shelters to protect them. There are not birthing rooms built to keep missiles out.  What goes through their minds when bombs fall?

The world is not a pretty place right now.  Jew Hatred has an intensity that has not been so bad since the Nazis. There is gun violence in the US. Hundreds of mass murders each year. There is conflict throughout the world. There are storms of unusual intensity. There are major earthquakes all around the Pacific rim. Today there are tsunami warnings in countries that border the Pacific. There is political unrest and uncertainty and regional and international tensions.

As a grandmother, I want that new generation to know a little of the peace that my children and I had. But with social media and the biased narratives of the news and bots that twist reality and challenge what is the truth, I am not sure the world will return to an equilibrium for decades.

What I believe is that women should not have to give birth in a bomb shelter. Sirens should not disturb the concentration and focus of labor. No woman should have to give birth in fear of war. You would think by now people would realize that we really are one world. And that major events that happen anywhere in the world impacts everyone. Just like the earthquake in Russia is impacting the world right now as countries sound their tsunami warnings and volcanoes erupt throughout the world.

I believe we are getting a message from nature.  We are one. We need to work together to give the next generation a safe place to live.

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Keep Reporting Online Hate Speech!

8 Jul

At times I think I have reached my limit dealing with online hatred, especially Jew Hatred.  I have viewed so many nasty comments under posts about Israel, especially posts about IDF soldiers who died, or under articles published in national news services, or articles about Jewish people in general, not even Israeli.

While the article itself might be positive, or perhaps sad about someone who died, the comments are often horrendous.  AI graphics showing Jews looking similar to propaganda from the Nazi era. Spewing hatred for the death of a Jew and wishing all Jews would die.  Spreading false information.  Calling for the mass murder of Jews throughout the world.

I report them all.  I take screen shots of those comments, and as I get messages from META, I checked to see what evilness they are still allowing to stay on Facebook or Instagram.  I honestly cannot believe the ones that they say do not go against their community standards!

After I sent an image to reviewed two times. This is what you see. So disappointing.

They ALMOST ALWAYS DENY any post I tag goes against the community standards the first time I report it, except for one that was so violent and horrific, it came down immediately. I was even thanked for helping them get it off social media, and if I ever saw anything like it again, I should immediately contact them.

Over my three years of reporting only eight posts I reported actually have been taken down, the one I mentioned and seven others, but those came after I sent it back for review.  Honestly, I send every single one I report back for review.  You can see in the above image that I actually got another horrible Jew Hating comment taken down in June. I put it here so you can see that it does happen!!! Sometimes the hate is so bad that they cannot leave it up.

An additional nine times I was told I can go to the oversight board.  I have attempted to do that several times.  In fact, I received one of these invitations last week.  I was trying to decide whether to take the time to do it, as sometimes I think it just goes into an abyss, since nothing seems to change.

The invitation to explain my belief to the Oversight Board.

Since the Jew Hatred is so filled of vitriol these days, I decided I had to send a report to the oversight board. I let them know exactly what I believed about their continuing to let Jew Hatred be present on META social media platforms. I wrote that Facebook was created for people to keep in touch with friends, not to be overwhelmed by hatred. That this was morally and ethically wrong, and that it needed to end. That hate speech was not free speech when it led to violence. And that the many, many instances of online Jew Hatred was leading to violence.

I tell everyone I know to keep reporting.  I was recently at an event for older retired Jewish women, where a speaker spoke about online Jew Hatred and how she works to get these horrible posts offline. I then reminded them that we as Jews are small in number, just 16 million worldwide.  If we want to make an impact, we all must work together.  I told them how to report a comment or image, by clinking on the three little dots on the right of a comment.  That they must use them to report!  Click on the 3 dots; then click the part that says report this comment, this photo, etc.; then go ahead and report it as spreading violence or hate!!!

There are several groups on social media working to stop online Jew hatred.  Some are asking us to report the Jew Hatred.  There are two that I know of: CyberWell and Digital Dome. Also Combat Anti-Semitism works to stop this hatred. It doesn’t hurt to report what you are seeing. And it might help.  This is a job that every Jewish person who is online should be doing.

If we do not speak up and work against Jew Hatred we are part of the problem. In the 1930s many were afraid to say anything, while others did stand up to hate. We have learned our lessons.  Never stay silent when hate is around.

At the same time, META must realize that leaving these expressions of Jew Hatred online opens the door to all others hate speech directed at other racial groups and, as we have seen, the LGBTQ and immigrant communities.  No hate speech should be tolerated online. These are private companies, they have the right to eliminate anything they don’t think is right. And they promise to provide a safe place for users!

I have read that some consider the Jew Hatred like the canary in the mine.  When the bird dies, you know that is bad air.  When online Jew Hatred gets this bad, perhaps it is the end of social media and a wake up call to all other groups to stop it.

Dante wrote in The Inferno: “The darkest place in Hell is reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis”

Don’t stay silent.  Speak out against online hate speech of any kind.

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Jew: The Original Doomsday Preppers

16 Jun

 It has been a crazy three days.  It has been stressful and at times unreal.  But what I do know is that I am a mother of a daughter and son-in-law who live in Israel.  More than that I am the mother of a woman who is 8-months pregnant.

My friends and family know that I am anxious, stressed and somewhat neurotic right now. They are reaching out with support and love. I am trying to continue with my daily life, but no matter what I do, my brain and my heart are in Israel. 

I feel like I need to share, to vent, to emote, at times to scream.  I mean, really!  I was just in Israel. How could this happen!  I HAVE to get back to Israel in six weeks!

Even my cousins who live in Israel or have their own children in Israel have reached out to me.  One cousin,  originally from Wichita, asked if I was okay.  She told me that her mother needed tranquilizers during the Gulf War. Makes sense to me.  Aunt Barbara I understand your angst now!

 Then another cousin, who I also saw in Israel, and who recently became a grandmother for the second time, texted: “Stay strong.”  My response, “I am trying!  You too!”  She is so Israeli. Her response “Children are strong. They are lions. And we are all warriors!”

I used that line this Shabbat when I was asked to read the Prayer for Israel.  I told everyone to remember we are all warriors! 

We will survive, as we always do.  I believe that. In the last two years its especially important to believe.  WE cannot cave to hate.

My daughter recently helped me see the reality.  We communicate several times each day now.  This What’s App Chat was classic. 

I start off:  “Perhaps when you are in the mamad (bomb shelter), you should stay away from the window.    (Back story: When they purchased this apartment she told me, “You will be happy to know the apartment has a bomb shelter.”  My response, “I am happy it does, but sad it has to have one.”  Now I really am happy snd extremely sad.)

“No one who was in a shelter died,” my daughter typed. “And Home Front Command specifically said that the number one safest place to be is in your mamad.  So that is where I will be.”  (There have about 30 who have died so far and hundreds who have been injured.)

“My heart hurts that you and all of Israel have to go through this. But especially pregnant women. (Okay I should have said children as well.).”  Then she informs me that one of her WhatsApp group of pregnant woman gave birth on Friday.   Both are fine.  But oy vey what a day.  So as a mom I typed (as if I had any control) “Wonderful! But best not to go into labor during a missile attack.  Just remember that.”  I got a thumbs up and “Yeah not Ideal.”

In Kansas people go into labor during tornados and snowstorms. It snowed the day she was born. But somehow giving birth during a bombing seems wrong.

The conversation continued as we got into what I call the immigrant response that was handed down from her great grandparents. My grandparents were both from Europe. They kept jewels, gold and money hidden in the basement. My siblings and I inherited a lot of jewelry. I keep my share in the bank. But we know it is there if needed.

Don’t worry is her usual response.  But this time it was a little different.

“Passports and jewelry are in the mamad as well,” she tells me. “A friend and I were talking about the first things to go into the mamad and I was like passports and jewelry.  Then came food. Then extra clothes.” (This is what I call European Jewish escape response.). I added, “What about water and a pot to pee in.” (Someone had to remind them.)

“Then I was talking to another friend and her German boyfriend,” she typed.  “I said something about diamonds, and he said “NO, Gold is better.”  I said, “ok, I guess a real German would know what bribes Germans were most likely to take so I’ll be sure to include gold.  Not that Germans are the problem right now.”  (Definitely Shoah inspired response based on knowledge about our family who was murdered and those that survived.)

I told her I was sad that she had to think about what she needs to keep in the mamad. 

“It is sad, but it’s also kind of our history.  Jews – the original doomsday preppers,” she typed.  “Gotta be ready to escape and bribe your way to safety.”

Yes, true, I wrote. But at least you have a shelter. I have to think of what Hamas did to the Gazans. Tunnels just for militants, the rest left to suffer the consequences of wars Hamas starts.

Unfortunately, perhaps it is our millenniums of dealing with hatred that has made us able to survive.  Perhaps being the original doomsday preppers is good.

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Zissel and Shalom: Survivors and Heroes

11 Jun

This is the most important blog I will write about my distant cousins Shalom Hollander and  (Lieb) Zissel Feuer.  They are true Jewish heroes. They did not give up. They lived through the Shoah and they helped those who also survived.  And I feel so honored to know that I am part of their family. I know that I just wrote about my renewed contact with their family, but I believe I need to just put it all in one place!

I have mentioned in other blogs that I met Zissel and Shalom when I was 19//20 years old studying at Hebrew University in 1974-75.  When I met them, I knew about the Shoah, but I also knew it was not something you asked about. If someone told you something you listened, but you did not interrupt.  You kept quiet.  The 1970s they were only just beginning to open up about what happened to them.

To me Zissel was someone my grandparents wanted me to meet.  Grandma had known him in 1931/32 when she took my mother and uncle to Europe.  Zissel stole a pearl necklace from her. And now over 40 years later, he wanted to make amends.  I was sent to collect the money and to listen to his story.  I liked Zissel. He reminded me of my grandfather. He worked in a bakery, my grandfather owned a bakery.  So from that point forward whenever I went to Tel Aviv, I visited Zissel.    I did not ask questions about his past.

Shalom I only met once. When my grandmother and I traveled to Israel in January 1976, we met up with Shalom in Haifa.  He and grandmother spent two hours speaking in Yiddish about what had happened in the war. About everyone who died.  

Ziseel and Shalom had been married to sisters, my grandfather’s first cousins. They and all the rest of the family was murdered. (Except one of the sisters’ brothers and those who had already left .) Some were buried in mass graves; some died in concentration camps; some died in a ghetto; some died in the death camp Belzec.  Shalom was saved by Schindler.  Zissel survived hiding in the forest nearby as part of the Amsterdam group, a partisan group all members of my family who hoped to survive in the forest.

After the war they both returned to Mielec to find other survivors.  They lived together in a house in town.  Thanks to Izabela Sekulska of Mayn Shtetele Mielec,  I now know what they did there.  They saved lives.  They testified against evil.  They worked to keep the memory of the dead alive.

First they saved lives.  Izabella told me that people were angry at Zissel. They said he lied and took money.  Well maybe he did. I have a different view.  The land of the Jews was now empty. The Jews were not coming back, or very few. Out of 5000 about 200 returned.  Zissel became the head of the Jewish community of Mielec.  Shalom was his deputy.  They did not just let the Poles take the land that had belong to the Jews. They told them that the survivors who came back, those who had lived through hell, had owned those lands. And they made the Polish people who wanted the lands to pay the Jews.  It makes sense to me.  They had nothing. No Home. No clothes. No family. NOTHING.  At least they could get some money to start a new life.  And they did.

Second thing they did. They testified.  They testified FOR the people who had helped the Jews. But they also Testified AGAINST many who had murdered the Jews. Including my great grandmother, who was also their aunt by marriage.  They wrote out testimonies and they signed their names to them.

Third thing they did. They protected the site of a mass burial. The spot where the Germans killed 800 Jews on March 9, 1942, Shalom purchased the land and put up a monument to his parents who are among those who are buried there, probably along with my great aunts and uncle.  They also built a wall around the Jewish cemetery.

Fourth, they helped an orphan Jewish girl who had been hidden and kept by a Polish woman during the war.  Shalom remarried after the war to another survivor of the Shoah. They adopted the girl and brought her to Israel with them when they left Poland. They went on to have three more children.

Fifth.  Shalom wrote testimonies for almost 40 people to be kept at Yad vShem, including for my great grandparents and my great uncle.  As well as his wife, children, parents, in laws, and Zissel’s wife.

Sixth.  Zissel came to America to see his brother in the early 1950s.  He visited my grandparents and told my grandfather how his family died.  My grandmother called him the Angel of Death, because he brought this horrific news into our family.

Seventh.  They survived.  They helped to settle the new Israel.  They worked. They remained close.  Shalom had a new family, new wife, children and grandchildren.  Zissel never remarried, but he also had a life and a relationship with Shalom’s children.

I am honored that I knew them.  I wish I had been braver and asked questions.  I wish had written down what they did tell me.  I wish I was not so timid then. But I am glad that I can close my eyes and still see them. Especially Zissel, who I spent so much time with 50 years ago.

I hope to keep their names and memories a blessing for my family.

There are many blogs about both Zissel and Shalom. You can find them on my blog site.

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Am Yisroel Chai. My Shabbat Speech

2 Jun

I was asked by my Rabbi to talk to my congregation about my trip to Israel. Here is a slightly edited version of that Shabbat speech, which I delivered on May 30.

Shabbat Shalom.

 I recently spent two weeks in Israel.  I did not visit tourist sites or go to a meeting.  I spent my time with my daughter and her husband and visits with friends and relatives who live in Israel.  What I did see was the resilience of the people of Israel.

On Sunday, 36 hours after I arrived in Israel, just as I went to take a walk, the siren sounded.  I went to the Mamad, the safe room.  A Houthi missile landed in Ben Gurion Airport.  This bombing partially cut Israel off from the rest of the world as airlines cancelled flights. Obviously, what the Houthis and terrorists want to do.

I also learned that when a siren for a rocket or missile attack goes off, take shelter wherever you can.  Just follow the crowd and they will let you in and show you what to do. When a siren sounds Israelis are one, helping each other to shelter.

On Monday, day 4, I took a bus with my daughter to Tel Aviv to meet with Ilana, who used to live in Overland Park and taught at the Hebrew Academy. She took me to Hostage Square, walking me from my daughter’s office to the site next to the Tel Aviv Art Museum.  Although I was there in the middle of the day, not when the protests usually happen, I was able to see the monuments and messages posted in honor and in memory of the hostages and those who died.   Ilana and I discussed the political situations in both the USA and Israel. How the hostage families want the war to end. Is what Trump is doing good for the Jewish people and Israel or not. What about Netanyahu?  What was going to happen.

Later we met my daughter for lunch at a restaurant in Sarona. We joined many others enjoying the lovely weather and eating outside.  We even ran into a group from Kansas City, including one of my daughter’s Hebrew Academy classmates. Life continues in Isarel. People enjoy luncheon dates. Tourist run into people they know. I have to believe, Am Yisroel Chai.

 On Thursday, Day 7,my daughter and I took the train from Tel Aviv to Jerusalem. In the morning, the train was empty and quiet.  I was a little nervous about what to do if there are sirens during the trip.  But a large part of this journey is underground, through tunnels in the mountains around Jerusalem. This new train route is direct from Tel Aviv with just one stop at Ben Gurion Airport before going on to Jerusalem. It’s a great way to travel.

It ends at a new train station with easy access to the Central Bus Station and where you can catch the light rail station right in front.  We just had a five-minute walk through lots of construction to meet our family, two of my husband’s first cousins (who grew up in Wichita) and their spouses.   One couple lives in Shiloh on the West Bank.  Right after October 7, three of their sons and one so- in-law were called up. Two went to Gaza.  Now after a break, two have been called up again. In fact, that week 60,000 young men and women were called back to active duty for a new ground assault of Gaza.

 The other couple live in Sderot Boker. On October 7, the wife’s sister- in-law was among those murdered.  Her daughter is teamed with a search and rescue dog. They spent days after October 7 searching for the living and finding the dead.  We did not discuss October 7, our main topic of conversation was that Jay’s 82-year-old cousin finally had a bar mitzvah at the Kotel that morning, and the antisemitism in the USA, especially on college campuses.  Think of that, sons called up to Gaza; sister-in-law murdered on Oct 7; and we discussed the Jew Hatred in the United States.   They will persevere. Am Yisroel Chai.

The train ride back to Tel Aviv was packed.  Soldiers and students returning home with their laundry for the weekend. It made me smile.  Sixty thousand called up.  Airlines cancel flights.  Worldwide antisemitism.  And in Israel teens and soldiers are bringing their laundry home to their mothers.  As it should be. Mothers rule!!!

On Friday, Day 8, Zak’s parents, who live in Tekoa, in the West Bank,  and his brother and girlfriend, from Modiim, came for lunch.  We took pictures. We celebrated being together. We spoke about family and the future. We talked about the house they are renovating in Zichron Yaacov.  We did not discuss the war or politics. We discussed the future for our children. And we do see a future. Am Yisorel Chai.

For Shabbat . Day 9, we visited my cousins.  My mother’s first cousin is my age.  Her parents, my great uncle and aunt, survived the Shoah.  She was born when they finally felt safe.  Her daughter is an excellent chef and made us a wonderful meal. Three of her grandchildren were there as well. The oldest is in the army. She does intake for those who work in the Kiryia.  Her biggest complaint are the parents who call because their children did not make it into this elite group.  Parents are the same everywhere.  The next oldest, a boy, has one more year before the army, but already had his first meeting.  And the youngest is just 14. But he knows what’s in his future.  Families in Israel. Descendants of survivors,  still sending their precious children to fight for survival.  Am Yisroel chai.

On Monday, Day 11,  I took the bus once again to Tel Aviv.  On the way home my daughter pointed out a different bus line with the driver who poked the package.  To understand that you need to know that several months ago a few buses had explosives that blew up, luckily, when the buses were empty in Holon and Bat Yam.  A couple of days later, my daughter had to take a different bus than usual that went through Bat Yam then to Holon.  She was the last one on the bus and noticed an unattended.  She walked up to the bus driver to tell him.  He stopped the bus and looked at it and poked it. And said it was safe.  She was horrified. They had a short conversation with him ending it by saying “I don’t know why anyone would ride a bus!”  She was a bit shocked and said to him, You drive them!””  In any case he was our driver on Monday. Should I say Am Yisroel Chai?  Israeli bus drivers are tough! But it does make you think.

Later that day Edan Alexander was released by the Hamas and returned to Israel.  I did not realize how much this would touch my heart.  An American from New Jersey, Edan is from the same city where my sister and her family lived.  I have been at the high school and the Jewish Community Center.  I have walked those streets.  He survived over 500 days in hell.

Joshua 1:9: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not be terrified or dismayed (intimidated), for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” 

Our returned hostages have an entire country supporting them. People lined the streets to the hospital to welcome him home.  Hostage Square was packed that evening. Am Yisroel Chai.

Tuesday, Day 12, my daughter and I go to the large outdoor mall in Tel Aviv to meet her friend with her 2-month-old daughter and her father.  Her friend’s first cousin, Maya, was slaughtered at the Nova concert.  I planted a tree for her and said Kaddish on October 7, 2024. We had lunch together, in a restaurant where we were served by both Jewish and Moslem wait staff. My daughter and her friend spent two hours in SheLev baby store going through everything Lara would need.  While her Dad walked the baby, I stayed mostly with the girls. They suffered a horrible loss on October 7, but now it was all about the Babies.  And there are lots of babies in Israel. They are having a baby boom!  The people of Israel will continue to live.  Am Yisroel Chai.                 

Later that day, my daughter drove me. to a kfar near Natanya, where I have distant relatives. The descendants of survivors, whom I met when I lived in Israel in 1974 and 1975. The families had lost touch over the past 35 years, when my grandfather and the survivors passed away.  But now we were reunited and could share our family stories. My distant cousin, whose father lost his entire first family in the Shoah, his wife and four children, as well as his parents and all his siblings, was the oldest son of the second marriage. The marriage of two survivors.  My cousin and his wife have 7 children, 40 grandchildren and 19 great grandchildren so far. I do not know how many children his siblings have, but I know there are many. The people of Israel will continue to live. Am Yisroel Chai vChayon.

At this point, I will add that our current president’s trip to the middle East was about to begin.  There was consternation in Israel because neither he nor anyone else from the government was coming to Israel. There was some anxiety in the air, but at the same time not. Israel was already isolated. 

My final trip to Tel Aviv was on Wednesday, Day 13. I met with a childhood friend who moved to Israel 30 years ago. We had lunch at the Azrielli Mall in Tel Aviv.  Her daughter has finished her military service and now will be an English teacher.  Her son will go into the army later this year.  Her husband works at Ben Gurion Airport to screen those coming into and out of the country. We also discussed the Jew Hatred in the USA and around the world.   And keeping safe. Am Yisroel Chai.

After I walked her to the train station, I walked back to Serona, where I did my one tourist activity, I took a tour of Serona.  It was a welcome moment of just enjoying seeing something of Israel I hadn’t seen before, as docent took us into buildings that are usually locked and told us the story of Serona. Originally settled in the late 1800s by the German Templars, Serona was the site of the first government of Israel, the first Bank of Israel, the first military base. It was the Kiryia.  Having this place as the first seat of government enabled Israel to govern from a safe spot.  Now, of course, the main seat of government is in Jerusalem.  Whereas there is a new Kiryia is in Tel Aviv.

My daughter’s’s office is in one of the skyscrapers that now surround Serona. On the three days I took the bus into Tel Aviv with her, I got to see where she worked and meet with her colleagues.  The CyberWell office is dedicated to searching for and helping to eliminate Jew hatred on social media platforms.  They see so much hatred online that part of their workload includes monthly meetings with a wellness team to ease their stress. The efforts to stop the hate is ongoing and not easy as social media platforms track it mainly in English, and the hate comes in all languages.  But they have the technology and the people who will work to stop it. The Jewish people find ways to survive, we are resilient. Am Yisroel Chai.

On a daily basis, I walked the streets of Holon and Tel Aviv feeling safe.  Some days after work and dinner, when it was dark and cooler, my daughter and I walked around Holon for a mile or so.  We passed the many playgrounds with their bomb shelters, we passed stores, some that are open all night.  We passed my favorite bakery. The bread in Israel is so delicious, so we often stopped there to buy challah rolls or bagelas or pastry.  One side of the bakery was all pareve.  I was in bakery heaven.

My last night, we had one last siren before my trip ended.  In all I experienced four sirens and four trips to the Mamad.  By the end, I no longer felt anxious when the sirens went off.  I knew the military was doing its best to keep us all safe with its defenses and its alerts to the people. I knew that the people of Israel were strong, as was I, and this too shall pass, and we will remain as always.   Am Yisroel Chai v Chaiyon.

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